6 weeks

It’s been a little more than 6 weeks since husband died. Life has continued for the rest of us. I struggle, daily, to keep a strong front for the children while I’m slowly dying inside.

I miss him. As I lay in bed after work, I find myself thinking about him. The tears wet my cheeks at the drop of a hat. It’s annoying, honestly. Today I was at the grocery store and someone asked if I was ok. Tears were streaming down my face and I hadn’t realised I was crying. I can’t seem to do anything but work without crying and even that is hard if someone says anything about my husband.

I started a new job last week. I’m now working as a shipping clerk in a tiny little company that treats me more like family than an employee. It’s very nice but very hard work. So many things I have to learn and it’s all on the job training. I come home exhausted every day. An hour nap and I’m a little better but man, the last hour of work is torture!

Youngest is struggling with his schooling. Not in the coursework but actually DOING it. He is so far behind in his classes that I worry he will fail even though his grades are awesome. I may have to put him in public school or get him a tutor.

Middle is feeling horrible. I think depression is gripping him. He is angry at husband for not apologizing for being so mean to him and cannot seem to let it go. Anger is common with him right now and I fear he’s on the verge of a mental breakdown. He has started therapy but I don’t think it’s the right kind.

Eldest is making me crazy. She REFUSES to do ANY chores. She is sleeping a LOT and has been late for work frequently in the past couple of weeks. It’s almost like she has NO work ethics. I truly don’t understand why it’s so damned hard for her to get out of bed lately. Is she just being defiant or is she depressed as well?

 

I have to remind myself that we are all grieving in our own way. I just wish I could help them but right now I’m barely holding on myself.

 

46 days and counting.

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So Unbelievably Tired

Why is it that the times you desperately need sleep, it eludes you like a dollar in a tornado? Since Mike has been gone these three weeks, I can’t sleep more than a couple of hours at a time. I can’t think, I’ve lost my drivers license, my wallet twice, my phone a dozen times and I have no clue where my husbands phone is….. I JUST had it….

I’m supposed to be starting a new job next week and my employer needs my social security card. I, AGAIN forgot to take it to him. I fell asleep again. For two hours. I posted on Facebook and went back to sleep… Three hours that time. I’ve been awake since midnight this time. It’s now 1:30 AM.

Yesterday I ate KFC for the first time in a while. That’s ALL I ate. Now I’m nauseous but not hungry. I ate a couple of those toaster hash browns about an hour ago after fixing youngest something to eat. I forgot to make dinner last night…again. I swear the kids are cooking only out of self preservation! Thank Heavens they are old enough to do that.

I think I need to go see my doctor and see if he can give me something to help me sleep. I can’t go on much longer like this….